Archive for the ‘Biographical’ Category
In a personal post that I sometimes recycle, I shared my priorities when things get hectic; you may have even noticed I didn’t blog last week. (That’s only the 3rd time in the last 3 years, I think, that I’ve skipped a week.)
It’s true that Read the rest of this entry »
But – things go better when we work to adapt ourselves, rather than trying to force others to change! In fact, our adaptation can inspire others to change. (Have you read Leadership and Self-Deception yet?)
[Are you getting tired of all the exclamation marks yet? Sorry - just trying to condition you!!!!!!!]
Consider this as a goal: Be easy to work with. More opportunities come along that way. Something we’ve seen is that the world seems to work better for people who are punctual, deliver on time, respond to communication quickly, are pleasant, and exceed expectations.
So — how to do that with your “Influence” leader, who cares about action, results, and ENTHUSIASM!!!! Match their style and their needs. (Which, frankly, can sometimes be exhausting, I know. I am an “I” and I’ve seen it in your faces.)
Consider keeping these things in mind:
-We like to have fun and explore interesting tangents. It doesn’t mean we’re not thoughtful or serious about things.
-Move fast – maybe a little faster than comfortable, so plan ahead.
-In fact, the “i” might predict what you’re about to say and interrupt you.
-Steel yourself for enthusiasm, positivity, smiles, and energy, especially if you seem “down” – the “i” might take it upon themselves to cheer you up.
-Emails may contain emoticons or exclamation marks! ;)
-The “i” cares about the level of influence they have, so if you can subtly find a way to help them understand that such intense energy might hurt their influence, you may have an impact.
While it is probably true that we need to work on slowing down and listening more and staying on topic and focusing on details, it isn’t your task today to change and develop us. But, you can give us room to do that work on their own when you stay easy to work with. And fire up!
Matt and Alan talk about the danger of dwelling on things.
This is a “rerun” from last year; some events of the last month have convinced me to share it anew:
We’re just a couple weeks from the Winter Solstice, the shortest darkest day of the year. A contrast to the holiday season, it can exacerbate hidden internal sadness in those around us.
I love Christmas music. But not all of it at the same level of love. I prefer minor keys, obscure pieces, and bleak moods that reflect peace and/or sadness. ”God Rest Ye Merry” is a good one, as is “‘Twas in the Moon of Wintertime.” There’s a lot of good stuff in the French, Celtic, and British choir traditions traditions that are haunting.
Two favorite Christmas music albums are “A Charlie Brown Christmas” and “If on a Winter’s Night…” The latter comes from Sting, who hits on a major theme of this time of year in the liner notes:
…I have an ambivalent attitude towards the celebration of Christmas. For many, it is a period of intense loneliness and alienation… Winter is a time of darkness and introspection… [and] the gravitational pull of home that Christmas exerts on the traveller.
Walking amid the snows of Winter, or sitting entranced in a darkened room gazing at the firelight, usually evokes in me a mood of reflection, a mood that can be at times philosophical, at other wildly irrational; I find myself haunted by memories.
This can be a joyful and jolly time of year; so many lights and happy music and gatherings. But many folks are like Sting; haunted by memories of sadness exacerbated by the short dark days and the contrast with the flaunting of joy.
Enjoy the season – the lights, music, gatherings, festivities – but please stay sensitive. And allow yourself to feel the melancholy, too. That can add to the beauty.
Happy New Year.
WARNING: This post is nothing but a story, though you will find usable content at the end. Also, it’s over 700 words. If you’re a long-time loyal reader, though, it’s required reading. (If you’re new to this blog, this is really the last thing you ought to read. I suggest starting here.)
As mentioned at the outset of this series, many Read the rest of this entry »
I was despondent. Poor me. “My people” weren’t engaged. They didn’t get me; they weren’t loyal, they weren’t receptive, they were leaving me, and it wasn’t my fault. They just needed to give me more time, to get to know me…
Except… Read the rest of this entry »
We’ve always heard that the space program has done more for us than explore space, the moon, and Mars– but that we have NASA to thank for some other, “accidental,” by-products: Teflon and Velcro come to mind — and I use those daily, I think.
What’s your space program?
In other words, what crazy big projects Read the rest of this entry »
When I was in 6th grade, my music teacher, Mr. Jones, played us some “Switched-On Bach” – Bach performed on synthesizer. That was pretty cool back in 1980. If you’re over 40, I bet you know what I’m talking about. It actually got me really interested in “real” Bach music; I’m a fan to this day.
Mr. Jones was a real advocate, and fed me more to listen to, and encouraged my unusual (for a 6th-grade boy) passion for Baroque music. Until one day… Read the rest of this entry »
It’s Wednesday – blog day – two tidbits for you:
This appearance in the witty and whimsical blog of eigthsevencentral.
(It explains a bit about why I’ve been pretty busy this week…)
In 300 words, here’s why it’s Read the rest of this entry »
Frequently, people ask me that question. Those who ask are usually witnessing me in a professional situation; if they saw me after the alarm goes off, there’s no way they’d ask that!
But it’s true- if we lead, we have an Read the rest of this entry »